A few years ago, when I went to a wedding, I wrote a post about how I had designed a dress that just put all the prominence in which I consider my physical flaws.
At that time, I explained how fashion concepts were going to be modernized and women were going to free themselves from misogynistic concepts of standard beauty, to embrace the diversity that our bodies can have and thus stand out with our own identity.
Indeed, my forecasts were true and modern fashion now takes stylistic concepts beyond - careful: do not mix modern fashion with "what one sees in Instagram" ... -, to create an aesthetic as wide as the types of women one can find.
Also, today I want to write this post in the form of styling advice, so you can open your minds and get out of the outdated clichés that still spread through the networks.
Whenever I give a course about style or advise a client in the atelier, I obviously start with the basics: Regardless of the body we may have, the goal is always based on making it look as the hourglass shape. This is a basic principle of all life and that there is not much room to flee - and on this issue I will talk later, in other posts of styling focused on specific advice on the types of body we have.
In modern fashion, what's actually going beyond such a “dogmatic and squared” concept is the way to achieve it. When I say that we must look like the hourglass shape, it does not mean that it is a shape with the standard measurements of any model, nor does it mean a standard hourglass.
The evolution of fashion brought alternative paths to achieve this attractive figure, beyond the scope of beauty seen on the catwalks of a lifetime, and one of those alternative paths is precisely what I defend today with this post: Embrace your Flaws.
In my atelier, several women come to ask me to "hide" the parts of their body with which they tend to have more complex - Typically: hips, chest, belly, knees, arms ... But, Most of the time the right thing is to put the spotlight on those points.
I leave some examples of styling, taking the opportunity to refer precisely my case.
Hips - As a good woman from the South, I have pronounced hips that do not always fit well tight dresses.
Instead of just using A-shape dresses, which are usually a solution but often very typical, in this case I made a tight dress but putting the spotlight right on the hips and stylizing the shape of my body with vertical black lines.
How uncommon (and stylized) is this? :D
Breasts - For example, my case is "small" breasts. It is important to understand if we really have small breasts or it is the back or shoulders that are narrow (for example, the latter happens to me), because depending on what case, there may be different solutions and several styles - but as I said, I will write later with advice for this type and for all types of breasts.
Anyway, regardless of whether the chest or back / shoulders are small, in any case SHOW THEM AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. Many women feeling small breast complexes tend to hide them, which is a tremendous mistake. Those who have "little" chest, we have the privilege of being able to use cleavage without appearing vulgar and it is right there that we should put the focus of attention.
At this wedding, I wore a long black dress (which also helps to stylize), highlighting the area of my chest and, as if that weren't enough, I also added my Aton necklace in silver, to highlight it even more.
Again, Do not hide, HIGHLIGHT what may seem a flaw.
Belly - In my case I don't have belly complexes, but I constantly make dresses for women who do have that complex. Once again, it is a mistake to wear a dress that tries to "straighten", "hide" or "ignore" any cute belly. Here, my styling advice is once again putting all the focus on this part of the body and for example my guest dresses Mara or Claire is just what they do: Placing a purse, a striking belt, or volume in the area of the belly, it's completely shrinks the shape of it by creating a stylized visual effect of hourglass.
Yes, Any element in this part of the body must, once again, stylize the body. Notice that for example the pleats of the Mara dress go inwards to achieve this effect. Also a belt will help to mark an hourglass shape, or the Minoa dress, which not only creates a stylized volume with the cut at the waist, but also shapes the chest and diverts attention to that upper part.
Again, do not hide your complexes. Play with them
Knees - I admit that I still cannot fully understand this complex, but I often see it in my studio and the way of dealing with it is not so different.
On the one hand, it's easy to cover your knees to forget any complexes you may have with this body part, although in this case I suggest for example wearing a midi dress or skirt (like the one of my new knitted dresses that I show above), which allows to continue giving prominence to the legs, maintaining a stylized and modern look.
On the other hand, regardless of the format of legs that anyone can have, a miniskirt will always be sexy - and the more thigh we can teach, the better (depending on what context, of course). I assure you that the attention of others will go much more towards that upper part of the legs and not at all at the knees ...
Arms - How many women tell me that if they have “fat” arms or shoulders, others that if they are tiny… Once again the formula is the same: highlight them, put attention there.
Either for "a lot" or "little" arm complexes, Ideally, decorate them with beautiful and unexpected elements. The sleeves of frills and volumes have become very fashionable and can be a solution, but there are other alternatives in my opinion even more elegant and that serve all types of arm: jewelry, chains, frills or less obvious forms.
I could continue giving examples and in all of them you would see that it is usually a better solution to stand out than to hide. As the old saying goes: The best hiding place is the one fully exposed.
Learning to apply this type of styling will help you live much better with your complexes, and mainly to accept your body as it is, because We all aspire to feel better with our body but now we know there are many ways to achieve it.